When it comes to sensitive issues, people tend to get overly defensive which just exacerbates tensions. I know trans folk, and treat them like regular human beings, (because they are, of course) but I didn't always have knowledge on the culture for lack of a better word. I once chimed in about a local teenager having problems with the DMV not allowing them to wear makeup in their license photo. This person was a "gender non-conforming" male, and I said something like "why not just identify as female on the license, and avoid the whole issue", and got my head bitten off by about 4 people who thought that was the most dickish thing to say. I thought this person was presenting as female because they were a trans woman. I had no idea gender non-conforming was even a thing, I'm a straight male, how am I supposed to know that? So I left that conversation thinking "fuck ever talking about that again", which is of course counter-productive because communication is key in life, especially with sensitive topics. Point being, people on both sides of the conversation (not this particular one, but trans issues as a whole) should pause, and take a breath before diving into their viewpoint. Actually, that would be a helpful thing to do in general. The first reaction is always the most volitile, and that's exactly what people go with, so we all argue, and nothing really gets accomplished.

Fuck, I hope that makes sense. Sometimes people don't understand what the hell I'm talking about, it's frustrating.

Hideous said
When it comes to sensitive issues, people tend to get overly defensive which just exacerbates tensions. I know trans folk, and treat them like regular human beings, (because they are, of course) but I didn't always have knowledge on the culture for lack of a better word. I once chimed in about a local teenager having problems with the DMV not allowing them to wear makeup in their license photo. This person was a "gender non-conforming" male, and I said something like "why not just identify as female on the license, and avoid the whole issue", and got my head bitten off by about 4 people who thought that was the most dickish thing to say. I thought this person was presenting as female because they were a trans woman. I had no idea gender non-conforming was even a thing, I'm a straight male, how am I supposed to know that? So I left that conversation thinking "fuck ever talking about that again", which is of course counter-productive because communication is key in life, especially with sensitive topics. Point being, people on both sides of the conversation (not this particular one, but trans issues as a whole) should pause, and take a breath before diving into their viewpoint. Actually, that would be a helpful thing to do in general. The first reaction is always the most volitile, and that's exactly what people go with, so we all argue, and nothing really gets accomplished.

 

Fuck, I hope that makes sense. Sometimes people don't understand what the hell I'm talking about, it's frustrating.

I definitely get what you're saying but I'd like to point out that you remembered what they said and you took it with you. Sometimes people have to be a bit dickish to get their point across otherwise it doesn't get heard and cisgender heteroseuxal people being hurt by someone pointing out their bigotry isn't that bad a thing. We could use a bit of a sore spot.

With the computer age out or disposal, it might also do people good if they know they are ignorant of something to google it before they say what they're thinking if they don't want to get some asshole like me being like "uh that's gross."

RobTidwell said

CellE2057 said

RobTidwell said
Scientists have recently discovered that theres part of your brain that is wired to specifically construct identity. It tells you where you fit in with the rest of the world. People who are trans (whether agender, bigender, gender fluid, or a transwoman or transman) have brains which function in the same way and tells them that how ever they're wired is who they are. Trans people have been saying for centuries that they simply "feel" like they're not the gender they were assigned at birth and want to express their true identity. 

Dammit, I keep missing the second post. Care to share a source on that? That sounds very interesting. 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/.....94820.html here's a huff post article about the study

Very much appreciated. I'm going to read it as soon as I get a cup of coffee in me. 

The only thing I really took away from that conversation was "don't say anything about this stuff anymore just to be safe", but I get your point. I still don't think I should be called a cisgendered bigot just for asking about something I don't understand. It was assumed I was being malicious because I'm a straight male.

and as long as were getting offended over stupid shit, (sorry rob but i do find these "i am offended by that word you used in your funny rap" convos a little unwarranted),

i am offended by the use of the term "Redneck" when describing a hardworking, blue collar, Caucasian individual. by those laws i can be described as "Redneck", and that would be fine if there wasn't so many negative connotations associated with the word. every time someone calls me a redneck i assume they are calling me a racist, white supremacist, P.O.S. so i wouldlike to ask everybod to think of who you are hurting when you use the "R" word from now on.

RobTidwell said 
I'm not even bent about it. 

Krunk was purposefully being offensive though. Deliberately. It was a cheap joke and it's fine to make cheap jokes and it's purpose was to offend. All I was saying was I don't like it. It's up to krunk on how to incorporate that into future posts.
 

What part of "those are lyrics" are you missing? Give words too much power and they'll strangle you. For instance, VOLDEMORT! There. The universe didn't implode. Also, fuck Caitlyn and her couture meat suit. I'd be impressed if she bitch-slapped herself out of her narcissistic trance and solved a real problem, but with role-models you get what you pay for.

I used to live in downtown Orlando, and recommend Bike Week at Parliament House for the discriminating freak on a leash.

http://www.parliamenthouse.com/

im an hour away from Orlando. I don't go up that way much unless im goin to a theme park, or something. Hoping to go to Disney maybe next year, but think the kids might be too young to remember later on